Moving on...

When I started blogging, I had been reading and commenting on blogs for awhile. Two of my favorite blogs were written by Dawn and Melissa Summers. They were fully out, used their real names and seemed to have little problem with their writing and their thoughts being available for public dissection. Most everyone else I read were anonymous and had some sort of pseudonym.

I was unsure if I would stick with blogging, even more unsure of my writing, and liked the psychological aspects of having my identity protected. I went with the majority and created a nom de blog. I told a handful of people (five outside Bert and the kids) about my blog, and never felt compelled to share it with anyone else in the last three and a half years. I liked this little private cocoon where I could share stories of my day, attempt humor and rant and rave about everything from stupid television to politics. I have never felt the need for the cocoon to expand further into my real life. Most of you understand this, you've either commented or emailed me about your own anonymous journey into blogging.

I've loosened up a little, used our real first names, alluding to our location sometimes. I got really annoyed with the pseudonyms. I'm really not afraid of internet stalkers. I just don't want to be talking to someone in the school parking lot or in a business meeting and having them know stories about my underwear or the latest stupid thing I have said to Bert. Some of the people at school have worried that my humor could impact the school and my job. I respect that, and have curtailed my public persona some. I act like a grown-up even. So I say things on the blog that I no longer say to many in real life.

I am going to keep writing here. It made me really sad to think of losing Vindauga and starting over with something else. I like the name. I like the ties I've built with other bloggers and readers. I don't want to leave them behind. I will continue to edit my archives, because now I don't feel sure that I know who is and who isn't reading.

I am going to write less about the kid's specific lives here. I've started a family blog and will write there about what is going on with them and school and our jobs, etc.  I am inviting family and real life friends to read there. I figure it will relieve me of the guilt of never getting Christmas cards out on time.

If you know me in real life, and I haven't invited you here, I would appreciate an email or something to let me know you are there. I'm flattered you would want to read me, but I would at least like to know you are there. I'm surprised you would stay beyond one post.

I hope to maintain my real life boundaries. I'm not telling anyone else. I don't want to discuss the blog in front of other people. If more people do stumble upon it, I will password protect. I'm keeping all your requests, and will let you know when and if the time comes.

Most of you anonymous readers have come to me because of my ties to adoption. It's funny,  I didn't know I had that big of readership, period, let alone that big of readership interested in adoption. I have hesitated to write much about adoption because I always felt like I was probably boring the handful of people out there reading. So, I ask those of you who come to read about our adoption story or adoption in general to comment on those posts or throw me an email about what you'd like to read about or what question you have. I would love to have more discussions about adoption, meaning you interact and let me know what you think

Thank you for indulging me in all this bullshit, and reading along during my little crisis of self-indulgent angst . I'm amazed you are here at all.

Comments

[dawn]

Oh GOD I'm glad you're staying!!!!!!!!!

[Margie]

Me, too, very glad!!

[merseydotes]

I will miss the stories about your kids, mostly because they seem to be the kind of kids I hope to raise, but I think you're making a good demarcation. Good luck, Lisa V!

[gawdessness]

adoption brung me and you made me stay - sometimes I don't comment because I think that what I have to say is dorky but I will try and comment more anyway - you have been warned :).

[AmericanFamily]

Adoption brought me here, but it is the lice that really keep me coming back. heh.

I like everything you write about adoption or not.

I am glad you are staying.

[Songbird]

I was here for the TV stuff...
(not really)
(well, not entirely)

[Angry Pregnant Lawyer]

Thank you for indulging me in all this bullshit

... but it's such good bullshit. :-) I like the bullshit!

[Angry Pregnant Lawyer]

Err, that first line was supposed to be italicized, but I guess the TypePad comments don't recognize html coding. whoopsie.

[terrilynn]

I'm really glad you're staying. I don't get by as often as I used to, but it would leave a real hole in my little blogworld if you were gone.

[cynthia]

So glad you're sticking around, parent/blogger mentor that you are for me.

[Clover]

Phew, I thought the title "moving on" implied a signing off. Thank God you're just curtailing some of the specifics. Now I can sleep at night without worrying about the end of Vindauga. :)

[Lilian]

YAY! I'm really glad you're staying and I hope no other "real life" people stumble upon it so you have to go password protected.

I enjoy reading about adoption and, I've probably said it already, I found you through Dawn and through other blogs in common that we read (where you comment).

[Angela (Eos)]

I'm late to the party...again!

Although it's very applicable to me (and there is lots I've learned so thank you) adoption wasn't the reason I got hooked. I actually like your sense of humor (a bit wicked and wry) and writing style so I'm glad you are staying around...the adoption stuff is cool too but secondary in my reasons for coming over.

[Misty]

Hi! I came here through a really great comment you made on sweet-juniper. I thought, hmm, that was witty, I should have written that first! Then I saw you had an adotion section. I'm a new adoptive parent so, I was intrigued. I love reading about birth-parent relations and, the growing-up stuff adopted kids face. Love the blog. Yes, I'm quite removed from the normal blog-reader. I'm not related to you and I live in Cincinnati. Honest. :) Keep writing. I dig it. I read you to my husband and he gets a great kick out of your writing too.

[Courtney]

I really need to add you back on my bloglines so I can make more timely comments...
Glad you're sticking around!